Tuesday, February 28, 2012

If its broke....FIX IT!

So I was watching TV this morning, and there was a commercial with a heavy kid, and his heavy mom. They had just left a Dr. apppointment, wherein the doctor told the mom that the kid was in danger of becoming diabetic. They get in the car, and there's a sports drink, and a pop in the cup holders between the seats. The commercial then went on to tell how much sugar is in those particular drinks, and the mom says something along the lines of  "I didn't figure those drinks were very good"...
Then she looks at the kid and says, "We'll fix this. I wish I had known sooner."
My knee-jerk reaction was "how stupid! Everyone knows that sports drinks and pop are LOADED with crap!" But then I got present to the last line of that commercial, and how powerful it was...and how much easier our lives would flow, if we would just respond to concerns, problems, obstacles and challenging events, if we would just say, "We'll fix this. I wish I had known sooner."

We spend so much time, when we get bad news, or have an 'issue' to worry about or whatever the sitauation might be...so much time getting mad, or pointing a finger, or searching for the source of the problem, or worrying about how it happened, when it happened, or how unfair it is.

Why not just say, "We'll fix this."?
Financial problems. Communication problems. Health problems. Unexpected outcomes. Grades. Chores. Goals not met. All those things, and about a gazillion other things come up in our every day lives, and all too often, we get completely sidelined by them. Getting emotionally wrapped up in the unfairness of it all....or letting the fact that we didn't see it coming, totally knock us off course.
Fine, we didn't see it coming. Or...this isn't how we thought it would go. Or...we feel 'wronged' on some level.

Okay, fine. But NOW WHAT? Wouldn't it be amazing if we could just take the "we'll fix it" mentality, and get straight on making something better, rather than marinating in how 'wrong' or 'hurtful' or whatever the current circumstance appears to be.

The car broke down. Get it fixed. Or find another ride somewhere.
A fight with the spouse. Get it fixed. Clear the air. Get back on track.
Feeling 'blue' today. Get up, get showered, get lovely and go do something for someone else.
Didn't win last night's lottery. Go buy another ticket.
Going through a divorce. Pick up your pieces, re-invent YOURSELF. Find the things that bring you joy, and go do them.

The worst thing we can do for ourselves, and the people around us is to let 'things', events, or experiences get the best of us, and throw us into a funk. That doesn't mean that we cannot or should not let things get to us, but it does mean that when those things happen, FIX them. Don't wollow in something being broken, just fix it!

OH! Speaking of which....I've heard several people tell me that they have tried to comment on this blog, but have not been able to do so. Last night...I FIXED IT :-D Apparently there is a setting on my end, that would allow (or not allow) peeps to comment....and I had "not allow" checked. Apparently.
I think it is okay now, but please let me know if you find yourself unable to comment on this blog. You can send me a text or an e-mail or post on my fb page to let me know. If there's a problem, I'll fix it :-)

I'm running late for work, so I'm going to go FIX THAT, and jump in the shower.
Wishing you all a fantastic day!
Until next time,
Jill

Sunday, February 26, 2012

If You're Happy And You Know It...Wag Your Tail!

Although there are "things" not to be happy about, there is no reason NOT to be happy! (its amazing, the things that hit me in the middle of the night!)
Here's the thing...we all have "things" in our lives that cause us stress or worry (or bad moods, or whatever), but none of those things really deserve the overwhelming attention that we tend to give them, by giving up our happiness and joy, in exchange for stress or worry.
I remember when my ex-husband and I split. SO many people said to me, "I never knew you were that unhappy! You were very good at hiding it!" Truth is, I was happy. I wasn't hiding anything! My marriage sucked, and my ex-husband was toxic and all that...but as a person, I was very happy. Happiness doesn't come from a spouse (although, my husband does bring 'happy' to a completely new level for me!), nor does it come from a job, a financial 'cushion', a flawless childhood, the 'perfect' body, the big house, or any other 'outside' circumstance.
There is no doubt that those outside circumstances (or lack thereof) can have an affect on us, but the bottom line is that we get to decide how BIG of an affect they can have. I know financial worries. I know relationship and parental worries. I know what its like to struggle with those things. But I have also seen, first hand, that one can be truly happy inside, even if all those outside things seem to be in chaos or upheaval.
We are NOT our circumstances. We are NOT our surroundings. We are NOT our current health, financial, relational, parental, mental, emotional, physical or spiritual 'circumstances'. We are SO SO SO much more than those things!  We are the creators of our happiness.  We are the ones who have the power to change our minds at ANY given moment, and take our energy, vibration, mood, or whatever you want to call it - into a completely different direction. No matter WHAT is going on around us, we can choose to be happy, and just wag our tails through whatever it is that is going on.
Shit happens. It happens to all of us. Nevertheless, WE are the ones who get to decide if we are going to give up our happiness and our joy, in exchange for the "stink" of what appears to be happening around us.
So, here's to standing TALL and standing FIRM in the decision to be happy.
Enjoy this magnificent day!
Until next time,
Jill

Saturday, February 25, 2012

THIS is the day!

Okay, so here is a "challenge of the day" of sorts...
Start something NEW this day...create or follow up on a hobby, a book, a task list - something....just do something TODAY that makes THIS day different than your previous days.
Here's something that 'showed up' for me this morning, as I was sitting here, trying to narrow down my thoughts, ideas, and such for what to jot down in this blog...
So many of us decide to start something new - a new hobby, a new diet, a new book, a new task...or dropping something old - an old habit, finishing a book that just found its way under or behind something...whatever the case may be. We so often have our 'start date' or 'stop date'. I have a coaching client who is determined to quit smoking...on February 28th.
Why not TODAY? Why not get started TODAY on whatever it is that you want to embark upon? Now, I'm not one to promote "start this diet today", because I've been on this anti-diet soapbox for a while now...but I do think if you want to take your health, fitness, wellness, strength, vitality, balance, flexibility WHATEVER in a different direction - today is the BEST day to start! If you want to save for something, cut down your debt, or any other finanical 'change', do ONE thing today...a significant thing that will bring you closer to that goal/intention. If you have a friendship or relationship that needs mending, or nurturing...do ONE thing today that will bring you at least one step closer to that intention. We don't have to conquer everything in ONE day, but this IS the day to get started on something, or gain momentum on it.
Use today to start, finish or make good progress on something that you may be putting off - until Monday, until you have accomplished some other taks, or until February 28th. Jump in and make something great happen today!
Why?
Because its today!
Make this day spectacular, and please be sure to comment on this blog, and let me know what you're up to today!!
Until next time,
Jill

Friday, February 24, 2012

Here We Go!!

WELCOME! I suppose at this point, I'm just welcoming myself, but what better initial greeting?
I am starting this blog as a result of several friends and co-workers recommending that I do so, as I tend to get really excited, and talk a really lot about life improvement strategies, and concepts related to feeling better mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. This life is amazing, and FUN, and should be a terrific experience, yet so often, we get weighed down by the drama, struggles, challenges and (apparent) setbacks in life. My intention for this blog is to learn, teach, grow, share, express, understand, and inquire...I invite you to come along with me on this wonderous journey!!
Until next time,
Jill